It’s difficult to deal with death, and that’s why it’s essential for you to prepare for it whether it’s for your own death or for your loved ones’. While planning and arranging a funeral service might seem stressful, you should not let your emotions take over you because this is a big responsibility.
By putting a little patience, you can already arrange a memorable funeral service for the deceased even if he didn’t leave any plans about his burial.
The following steps will help you arrange a loving ceremony in memory of the deceased:
1. Choose a preferred funeral provider
Don’t get overwhelmed with a lot of things when you’re arranging funeral services. Deciding on a particular funeral provider that will organize the service is the first thing you need to do. You can search for a wide list of providers over the Internet and in directories.
Here are some of the things to consider when selecting a particular provider:
- Location – Ideally, you should choose a funeral provider that’s close to the home of the deceased so that it’s more convenient for them to conduct burial or crematory services.
- Reputation – Go for a provider that has been around for quite some time and is also known for quality service. New ones can provide the same set of funeral services but nothing can beat the kind of service that a reputable funeral provider is giving.
- Recommendation from friends and relatives – While it’s good to look for an ideal funeral provider, it’s also good to know if friends and other family members already have a suggested provider for the funeral. This could make the search for nearby funeral providers within the community much easier.
- Price list and discounts – Knowing the actual cost per item can help you reduce the cost of the funeral service.
2. Provide basic information of the deceased to the funeral director
This will help the director in making arrangements and acquiring necessary papers and permits. Some of the required information include:
- Full name of the deceased
- Date and place of birth
- Date and place of death
- Date and place of interment
- Your complete name and your relationship with the deceased
3. Decide on what type of funeral should be used
If the funeral arrangement is for your own death, you may choose the best plan that fits your needs. If it’s for someone else, you can check his will for instructions on his preferred funeral – whether it’s a direct cremation or a full-service type of funeral.
4. Arrange the payments
The costs will depend on the type of funeral service. For instance, there’s an added cost for embalming the body if you wish to arrange open viewing types of funeral. If you are planning to purchase a casket with elaborate design, it can cost you about three times the actual price of an ordinary casket.
Additional charges will also depend on the type of service but settling the payment could be via cash, life insurance, loans, or credit cards.
5. Secure a copy of the death certificate
This can help you finalize all the affairs that are related to the deceased such as filing of life insurance claims or cancellation of credit cards. This certificate can be requested via phone, mail, or online.
6. Post death notices in newspaper obituaries or online
This is one way of letting other people know about the funeral services for the deceased. Take note that there’s an added cost for placing the death notice again the next day in newspapers. To save cost, it’s recommended to post the death notice online indefinitely.
Paying a tribute becomes more memorable if loving messages are included in the notice apart from the basic information of the deceased.
7. Notify close people regarding the funeral services
It’s your call to decide on the number of people you’d like to invite for the funeral. Usually, it depends on the circle of friends and family of the deceased. Some people to notify and invite are the following:
- Friends, relatives and even close neighbors of the deceased.
- His former colleagues
- Members of a particular community or organization that he joined in.
8. Select flowers
Usually, casket viewings and funeral ceremonies involve floral displays. You can always choose the type of flower to be displayed and this can be ordered through the chosen provider or on a separate supplier.
9. Make transportation arrangements
Some funeral providers offer additional fees for a limousine or car that will be used to transport the deceased from the place of the wake to his final resting place.
10. Dress appropriately
Wearing black is a common practice when attending funerals but there’s no actual rule about the color of dress to be worn. Just stay away from wearing dresses with wild patterns or bright colours to show respect.